Friday, February 1, 2013

Boys vs. Girls

There are a few universal truths in this life.
One of them being that dating is pretty miserable.
Now, I'm not claiming to be a pro, by any means.
I have very minimal experience, and if I'm being completely honest, it terrifies me.

Each gender spends so much time complaining about the gender they may be pursuing, but NONE OF US have it right.
Girls are crazy, guys are stupid.
That's all there is to it.

Here's the thing about us women.
We overthink, overreact and over analyze.
After any interaction with a guy we're interested in - be it in person, on the phone, over text or Facebook chat - we will sit there (probably call our best friend) and go over every. excruciating. detail. trying to decide

but what does this MEAN??
It's just how we work. 
I can't tell you why we do it.
I wish I could explain to you why our brains/hearts work this way.
I can tell you that it makes us frustrated.
I can tell you it makes us crazy. 
We hate that we do it.

But not so fast, because it's not like you people aren't at fault too.

While women think way too much, men don't think enough about it. 
They don't realize how much every little thing means. 
Everything you say, everything you do, and the ways in which you do or say it, mean something to us. 
It's just the way it is. 

And for the love, if you're interested at all, just ask a girl on a date. 
A date is not a commitment to marriage. 
A date doesn't necessarily have to develop into anything. 
They are simply opportunities to have fun. Get to know people. Enjoy each other. 

Don't lead these poor suckers on. 
If you're not interested, don't act it. 
Find the balance between friendly and flirty.

Boys, if we are making a consistent effort - finding excuses to talk to you, invite you to do things, touch you or play with our hair when we're around you?
Odds are we're interested.
Do something about it. 

My biggest thing is that I don't want to be THAT girl.
That girl who throws herself at every guy. 
That girl who will do anything with any guy who shows up.
I'm picky and I plan to stay that way. 
Looking and acting ridiculous isn't worth it to me. 
The way I see it, the guy I'm going to end up with will show up no matter what. 
You have to try, but it doesn't have to be difficult. 

Ok, vent over. 
I'm curious to hear your thoughts though!


  1. If I may I would also like to add that both need to learn to distinguish between friendly and flirty. Boys, if I say hi and talk to you, doesn't mean I want to date you. I'll let you know in a less vague way.

  2. I would also like to add...

    Boys, if one girl turns you down, yeah it sucks, but move on. Not every girl is going to turn you down. Pick yourself up and ask someone else.

  3. All I really want to say is that I completely second this: Girls are crazy. Guys are stupid. Its just a fact.

  4. I so approve of all of this message. (and your new design) ohhh, dating.


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